A visit to a court mediator in Krosno was the next stage of our project: , ”In the matrix of discord. How to help Jaslo teenagers resolve conflicts with adults”. The matrix of the title is nothing but a trap, because conflicts are a trap for all participants. They are not easy to solve!
The interview with the mediator prompted us to create advice for parents, who are not always able to , “get into our skin”, understand our problems. For centuries, intergenerational differences in views and lifestyles have become a cause of discord in families, often because , “All adults were once children, but few remember that” (Antoine De Saint-Exupery).
Forgotten the ox when it was a calf, or a little guide for the conflicted Parents! Recall the times when you also made youthful mistakes. Do not underestimate or downplay our problems. And here is some advice for you:
- In a conflikt situation, present your reasons, but let the youth present theirs.
- Settle disputes with compromise, so that everyone feels satisfaction in trying to resolve the conflikt.
- Control emotions, do not use violence or vulgarity. A calm dialogue will be better.
- Take care of good contact with your teenagers to avoid unnecessary disputes.
- We know that it is difficult for you too, but take an interest in our problems.
- Try to help your children yourselves, don’t refer them to professional conflict resolution specialists.
- Be discreet, do not reveal your children’s problems to outsiders if you want them to trust you.
- You too, like your children, set your sights on communication rather than confrontation.
- Remember that you are together with your child against the problem, not against each other.
All the advice can be summed up by a well-known proverb: , “Consent builds, disagreement ruins”.
Task Force
The GGP task is implemented within the framework of the project: “Jasło – City of Knowledge” implemented within the framework of the project financed from the funds of the EEA Financial Mechanism 2014-2021 and the state budget titled “Jasło – my city, my home”.
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